She's an 8 and Rich but Can't Date?
Go where the men are.
A massively viral discussion of dating had a female reader ask me: What’s the solution? First, I’ll show the problem.
Some can say this isn’t true. She’s not an 8. Here’s my curmudgeon response.
Let’s be constructive. What if she is telling the truth?
What HELPFUL advice would you give?
“Go to where the men are.”
Here is what I told a female reader.
Your best move is to start going to those entrepreneur events like Grant Cardone 10X Conference.
Get into male dominated environment where ratio is 100 to 1 male to female.
I mean that sincerely. I hold public events. Lots of good guys who come to my events are single and would be committing. There is a dating pool of men out there.
These men are fed up with skanky behavior and over it.
You have to go where the men are, at scale. The flip side is women who do that often end up getting "high" from the attention, thinking they have all the time in the world, and don't choose one guy and make it happen.
Some elaboration.
The usual dating situation is that you go out with friends and maybe meet guys at a bar or other event. Or you do online dating, and the kind of men on those sites that women want to date are building harems. (Just the reality. Ask a hot guy friend what he is really doing.)
Life is a game of luck and skill. You have to be smart and tactical. A genius born 5,000 years ago would still be breaking rocks or might even be enslaved by some pharaoh. He wouldn’t be Tony Stark or Elon Musk. (The circumstances you’re born into is a matter of luck, for those in the back.)
Here is a Grant Cardone event. What do you see?
Men!
Be warned that a lot of men who go to these events are known as wantrepreneurs.
wantrepreneur (plural wantrepreneurs) A person who aspires to be an entrepreneur, especially one who never realizes this ambition.
Women will 100% find dateable men who have ambition and values. More than they could even begin to get to know. (That’s why you have to avoid the “unlimited options” paradox and choose one.)
Because not many women go to entrepreneur events, those who do are the “queen bee.”
Groups like Grant Cardone beg women to attend, as it helps with the optics of “inclusivity.” Plus, young men like being around women.
The trick, as I told her, is that a lot of scum bags go to these things as well. And a lot of male attention can be harmful to a woman. Unlimited choices aren’t read, it’s an illusion! Find one good guy and lock it down.
The objection to my approach is that it would be “awkward” to attend this style of event. It’s awkward for men, too.
It’s totally normal to wake up on a Saturday hungover. Your bros will love you. Tell them you’re going to a mindset or entrepreneur event, and your “boys” will say: “LOL! What are you a dork into SELF-HELP?”
You get made fun of for trying to be more than you are.
Well, sure, but that’s a psychological barrier you’re imposing on yourself.
Probably why you should attend an event like 10X.
Note: I am not an affiliate or anything with Cardone. There are other similar events people can go to. The point I am making is STRETCH YOUR THINKING.
Going into situations where you feel like you don’t belong is how you grow as a person.
Setting yourself up for success, in business or in life, means playing smarter odds.
Go to a bar or event where dozens of women are competing with you to meet a few alcoholic men?
Or attend an event where you stand out as a woman, and your biggest problem will be that too many hard-charging, driven men are trying to talk to you?
Choice is obvious.
Volunteer to serve or work at a triathlon event. 300 in shape, successful guys.
If she met a man as accomplished she would hate him. She sounds difficult and not content with the simple things. Any dating site is toxic.