Having children puts the needs of the ego in competition with the needs of the soul from Day One. How you resolve that competition within yourself is the key to parenting, in my opinion. "Will they be OK" is the fear that led me to quit drinking four years ago, in fact. I also know "parents" who clung to the needs of the ego through the whole experience. I'm confident that I missed nothing by spending my time with my children.
About 5 yrs ago I thought I was going to die. Best thing that ever happened to me in the long run (at the time it sucked)
All I could think about was my wife and kids and how I wouldn’t be around to protect them. Who would make sure my son makes it through his adolescent yrs and ensure my daughter finds the a man with a good soul.
Another aspect I dwelled on is being so meek in certain situations and not having more confidence. Loved this writing
The EGO is always challenged when you’re faced with a life altering situation. When you’re on the hospital bed about to lose a limb (me now), or when faced with certain death.. you quickly re-asses all your goals and all your energies, it’s a very good cleanse of your bandwidth. You’ll make sure that everything you do for a while is extremely efficient and nothing goes to waste. All of these things are greatly amplified when you have a family and young children.
Having children puts the needs of the ego in competition with the needs of the soul from Day One. How you resolve that competition within yourself is the key to parenting, in my opinion. "Will they be OK" is the fear that led me to quit drinking four years ago, in fact. I also know "parents" who clung to the needs of the ego through the whole experience. I'm confident that I missed nothing by spending my time with my children.
About 5 yrs ago I thought I was going to die. Best thing that ever happened to me in the long run (at the time it sucked)
All I could think about was my wife and kids and how I wouldn’t be around to protect them. Who would make sure my son makes it through his adolescent yrs and ensure my daughter finds the a man with a good soul.
Another aspect I dwelled on is being so meek in certain situations and not having more confidence. Loved this writing
Excellent segway into Fear. Which was also excellent.
The EGO is always challenged when you’re faced with a life altering situation. When you’re on the hospital bed about to lose a limb (me now), or when faced with certain death.. you quickly re-asses all your goals and all your energies, it’s a very good cleanse of your bandwidth. You’ll make sure that everything you do for a while is extremely efficient and nothing goes to waste. All of these things are greatly amplified when you have a family and young children.